Three Ways To Work Through A Divorce Without Losing Control Of The Situation

Posted on: 7 October 2016

While the transition from married life to single life can be a very disorienting one, and it can be quite stressful to lose your partner and perhaps move houses at the same time, it can get even worse if the process devolves into a fight in court and everything is taken out of your hands by a judge. In order to avoid the feeling of powerlessness and all the possible ways this could go wrong and end up with you losing more of your possessions than you expected, it's a good idea to try and work out a mutually agreeable settlement on your own. Here are three ways you can try to keep control during this difficult time. 

1. Try to maintain an amicable relationship

Regardless of the reasons for the divorce, staying in a workable relationship with your spouse until the settlements are in place is vital. If you don't have a good working relationship, you won't be able to work together to find a solution designed to further everyone's interests; instead you'll end up with each person trying to stand up for his or her own rights and refusing to make concessions to the other party. This can end up with you needing to go to court, where the settlements will be taken out of your hands.  

2. Choose a mediator

If you can keep your relationship in order throughout the divorce process, you may be able to choose a mediated divorce, which means that you and your spouse will meet together with a neutral third party to discuss settlements of child custody, finances, and so forth. Although the mediator can try to ensure that everyone ends up with an equal share, he or she doesn't put all the decisions beyond your control.  

3. Have a personal lawyer

Although it's not required to have a lawyer when you choose a mediated divorce, retaining a lawyer is necessary if you want legal counsel. Though your mediator must be well-versed in divorce law, he or she is not allowed to give legal advice to either party.   

These three methods will help you regain some control over your life during the divorce process. If you are unsure of whether your relationship will sustain this process, discuss it with your spouse, highlighting how the process is more likely to result in an equitable arrangement and reduce stress for the children by minimizing family tensions. For more information and advice, talk to a family lawyer at a law office such as the Knollmeyer Law Office.